Yes! FINALLY Someone Gets It!
"If you're in a good relationship and if you want to marry, there's no reason to postpone it."
That's right, Stephanie. I think that we make marriage too hard sometimes. I'm not saying that we should run out and marry someone we just met on the internet (um...) or anything, but far too often I hear people saying "I love my girlfriend, but I don't know if it's God's will for me to marry." My response? Why then are you even dating?
Is it possible that God would give someone the desire to marry and then make sure that it's "not His will" for that person to marry?
Seriously. We don't all have to be 30 and mature before we start thinking about marriage (I know, I know. My fiance is 30). I will be honest. It feels really good to be out of the dating scene. I am so thrilled that I am marrying the most Christ-centered, level-headed, fun-loving, good looking and respectable man in the entire world! I don't have to worry about things like "I wonder what so-and-so meant when he said [fill in the blank]." It's soooo good to be in a life-long commitment.
Everyone should start praying for the Lord to send a spouse into thier lives! I highly recommend it.
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This makes me proud to live in KY. Okay, this is absolutely HORRIBLE! DISGUSTING! GROSS ME OUT!
posted by Nikki Leigh Daniel @ 11/18/2005 09:59:00 PM
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Now this is truly amazing. After all the hubbub about how our SBTS ladies aren't here to get husbands, we have one of them saying it's perfectly fine to go out and get one.
Further proof that women are impossible to understand. *wink*
Okay, here's where the misunderstanding of women comes in. Yes, there are women at SBTS who are NOT here to "get husbands." However, I think what Nikki is saying is that when God sends the right one along--there's no need to dawdle. When it's right, it's right. I would say I'm not "looking for a man." But I would also say that if God chooses to place the right two people together, there's no need in them waiting to act on what they know God has called them to do. God has ordained marriage, and it's a beautiful, awesome thing when done His way. I'm just not sure that "it's perfectly fine to go out and get one" is the correct way to label this blog.
Sorry for the controversy...just browsing and thought I'd comment. :)
OK, so I have to admit I was a little shocked when Nikki got engaged 11 weeks after she and JD started dating. If anyone had asked me if that was long enough to date I would have said Heck no! But isn't it a little presumptuous to assign a timeline to a relationship -- I mean, if it's obviously God's will for you to get engaged after 11 weeks, why wait another 41 weeks just because you always thought you'd date for a year before you got engaged?
Here's the wrong way to go about it as far as I'm concerned: meet someone you're crazy about and are convinced is the one for you. Date, date some more, date until you're both done with college, date until you both have good jobs. I have a friend who is on this dating plan and has been with the same girl for going on four years. They're getting married NEXT SUMMER.
If you're not just pining away to marry this person, hardly able to wait to start your life together, why are you in a relationship at all? On the other hand, if you ARE pining away to marry this person, etc., why on earth would you put it off? Go to Vegas if money is an issue! Geez! ;) (Ahem. End rant.)
Thanks so much for this, Nikki.
And....I think there's a difference between "going out and getting a husband" and praying that the Lord would provide a man to fill that role. Some girls desire for their main ministry to be submission to a husband that is serving the Lord, to encourage him and love him so he can better lead where he is serving. And no, we can't just sit around and wait till the Lord hands us a husband, but if that is a desire of your heart, why not pray diligently for it. Of course in praying you have to still seek the Lord first, being joyful in that everything happens according to His time.
Perhaps this would be more appropriate for a whole new post, but I've been wondering about this paradox lately. Paul is very clear in his encouragement to single people to remain single so they can give their whole life to God. It seem like the students of Southern are very passionate about following Christ with their whole lives. However, I feel like Paul's exhortation to them is mostly ignored as something meant for someone else. I've never heard of a single pastor (outside of the Catholic Church, of course). Do any seminarians vow to remain unmarried?
Nikkilicious,
I didn't get the commercial email. Please send it to me. Assuming you read the comments on this blog... :)
check out this site:
http://boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001135.cfm
it basically laments that young people aren't even contemplating marriage. this issue is getting somewhat of a resurgence.
"...far too often I hear people saying "I love my girlfriend, but I don't know if it's God's will for me to marry." My response? Why then are you even dating?"
I thought was an excellent point - and I wish more young people would treat "dating" more soberly.
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